Posted by cfz on
July 4, 2009
do you get mad? do you not care? my mom gets mad when i call my sister half i don't know why through....It is hurtful for a mother to know that her children value biology over family love. Your mother's anger is a disguise for her pain. My 3 children are all half brothers and sister to each other, but they never refer to themselves as half. They have been brought up together and live together so to them they are merely siblings.if they are not full than they are half. i do not know your mom is mad.Calling them a half sibling implies that you don't care as much about them as you would a "full" sibling. My husband has two sisters, they are biologically his half sisters, but legally his full sisters, as their father adopted him (they all have the same biological mother). One of the greatest hurts he had was when one of his sisters introduced him as her half-brother. He doesn't view them as anything other than his sisters, so it was very hurtful to him that she feels he is less of a sibling than their other sister.I don't do that. I have 1 full brother, and 3 half sisters, 2 half brothers. I say my brothers and sisters. My kids aren't even allowed to say step brother or sister. If they are a part of the family, they are a part of the family, no half or step way about it. My son told us recently that steps aren't really family. Somehow it's okay for his moms new husbands children to be his brothers, but not okay for his dads new wifes children to be his brothers. I fixed that in 2 minutes. It hasn't happened again.Well, your mom is probably just really family oriented, and thinks that the bond you have as sisters should be more important than pointing out HOW you are sisters. She may also be a bit sad that you don't share a father. Only your mom can answer this question really, but if it bothers her, why not just keep it to yourself when she's around?Probably because your Mom feels in some way that you are being non-inclusive when mentioning the "half" part. Most people really don't care if your sibling is full or half, and this type of thing only comes out when you have in depth discussions of who is who in the family. I have two step kids who happen to be "half" to my kids, and nobody ever says the word half unless somebody is really confused about how we are all connected and needs clarification.
Why don't you ask your Mom why she seems upset when you say it?#If you have any other info about this subject , Please add it free.# |
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